In the last installment of this series, we have finally made it to the Top! It has been a long ride and for some a hard climb. We have learned what it means to Love and how to turn our marriage back On! Today, we will be taking our marriage to the TOP! The reality of getting your Love On Top is to admit that it has gone through some turbulent times that have caused you and your mate to be on the bottom.
Once you evaluate and take inventory of all the things that you and your spouse have done over the years, you will be able to pinpoint what has kept you so “grounded on level 1” instead of living life and love on top at the penthouse level. Today is your day to take flight to the Top! Going to the top is a teamwork and partnership. In life if you are at the top of your game, but your marriage is slumming it, then you have not really made it to the top. True Love On Top is when the marriage makes it, because when the marriage makes it, then each spouse has made it to.
So, the first step to the Top is to not try and go at it alone. Don’t think that if you get to the top you can carry, cheer, or badger your spouse to that level with you. You have to be willing to stay in the trenches and work your way up to the top together and not apart. Just like in the military and with firefighters, you have to take the motto, “No Man Left Behind!” Don’t leave your spouse behind.
Stop Making Your Spouse Take the Stairs
Step 2 to going to the Top is to stop making it so hard for your spouse, and stop being so difficult. Many of you are riding easy on the elevator to the top all the while making your spouse take the stairs. Marriage is not 50/50 it is 100/100! There is no test that you can take and make a 50 on it and pass. It is not enough for you to do half (50%) and then expect your spouse to give you a 100%!
You make your spouse take the stairs when you are unloving, unforgiving, adulterous, dishonest, non-communicative, a work-alcoholic, and despondent towards your mate. You are making your spouse climb while you take an easy ride to the top. If you are making your spouse work overtime and you are barely showing up to the marriage, then you have made your spouse take the stairs. You cannot give minimum input and expect maximum output!
The Rules of Engagement to
Put Your Love On T.O.P.
Talk & Touch: The behavior of getting to the top is that you talk and touch your spouse every day. In the morning when you get up, say, “Good Morning.” When you leave the house, seal it with a kiss. Throughout the day, touch base with each other. When you come home, welcome one another with a kiss and a smile. Schedule time each night to have pillow talk. Always make talking and touching a primary focus of each day. Talking & Touching always takes you to the Top!
Observation & Opportunities: Don’t get so busy that you don’t notice or acknowledge that your spouse is going through something. Don’t always consider yourself and your feelings all the time. Really observe your spouse and look for opportunities to love them and really connect to them. Constant observation and seizing the right opportunities will take and keep you at the top!
Priority & Purpose: Make your marriage and your spouse a top priority. Make your marriage a true purpose in your life. There are so many things that compete for our time and energy, but your spouse should not have to compete because they should already be a top priority. You have to remember that you cannot complete or accomplish your life’s purpose without your spouse, so you must realize they are an integral part of you. Keeping the right priority and purpose will keep you at the top of your marriage.
A couple who is talking and touching every day, spouses who observe and look for love opportunities, and put each other as a priority and purpose are bound not only to make it to the top, but to remain there. Today choose to put your Love On Top and stay at the Penthouse level in your marriage. All that you need to make your marriage successful is already down on the inside and within you and your spouse; it just needs to be unleashed! It is Time for you to Unleash the Possibilities Within & Live Life From the Inside Out in Your Marriage!